6 Steps Toward Experiencing More Fulfillment in Life

Finding Fulfillment Do you have a ton to do and have no idea where to start? Would you like to know with each step you take you’re heading in the right direction? Would you like to narrow your ‘to do’ list down to a few key items and let go of the rest? Would you like to work smarter, not harder?

Answer these six questions to find your focus, do what you want to do and feel great about your life while you’re doing it.

1. What do I care about most? Where is my heart leading me?

Asking this question will give your heart a space to speak and be heard. When we get wrapped up in all the ‘stuff’ we have to do we often overlook what our heart wants.

2. What do I really want to do? Is this truly what I want?

Doing what you really want is a process of identifying and letting go of the things that you don’t want and replacing them with things that you do want. Overtime you’ll rebalance your life to include more of what you want to do.

3. How will I feel while I’m doing what I’m doing? Will this bring me joy?

If what you’re doing doesn’t give you pleasure while you’re doing it, you may be on the wrong track. ‘Doing’ takes up much more time than the actual result. We reach each goal only once and then it’s over. The journey to our goals is what fills our life with experiences. If you’re not feeling good during the ‘doing’, it may not be worth it. Give yourself permission to do things that feel good and you’ll live an inspired life.

4. What purpose will this serve?

If the answer isn’t clear you may be letting life lead you.

This question helps you make better choices for your life. Basing your actions on a clear purpose puts you in the driver’s seat which means you are leading your life instead of letting it lead you.

5. What is the priority of each item on my list?

We make choices about what we’re going to do all day long, but how often do we make choices after asking ourselves the first four questions above? Answering the above questions first, will guide you to living a more fulfilling life.

6. How am I going to do it?

After narrowing your focus create a mini action plan for each item. Write down the steps you’ll need to take to make it happen. Focus on one or two things at a time. Don’t try to do everything at once. Give yourself a chance to worker smarter and you will get more done.

Before jumping into your ‘to do’ list, take some time to reflect upon these questions. By doing so you’ll put yourself on a life and/or business path that reflects more of what you really want. Determine your FOCUS first and you’ll experience more fulfillment.

How to Reduce Clutter to Focus on What’s Important

How to Get Organized to Focus on What's Important Do you walk in the house after a long day at work and just sigh at your cluttered house? Have you planned to organize one morning but just did not know where to start or were just not in the mood?

Are you caught in a vicious cycle: as soon as you organize one room another one has turned to chaos? Maybe you just need to prioritize, find motivation, and ask for help. Easier said than done?

Here is how to get started:

Prioritize

As with most goals in life, you want to strive for progress and improvement, not perfection. Most of us do not have time to achieve perfection in everything we do and still live a happy, fulfilling life. When you set goals, make them achievable, attainable. When you make that progress, create a visual way to track it or remind yourself of all you have accomplished. Since we will never have more than 24 hours in a day, we may have to say “no” to some activities and tasks.

As you list each goal, task, or activity, ask yourself if it is necessary, if it supports your ultimate goals, or if any other activity or person will be negatively affected if it does not happen. You may see your list shrink before your very eyes. If you are not sure how to narrow your list, search the internet, ask a friend, or consult a professional organizer (we help with both the tangible and intangible).

Motivate

Do you start the day with the best of intentions to declutter the bathroom only to lose your drive because it is “just not worth it?” What is worth it to you? What do you value? Why? These questions may not seem to have much to do with organizing, but they can be the key to your motivation. How much time do you spend on activities that relate to your values? Most of us would probably answer “not enough.” Then why would you ever spend time on an activity not related to your values, such as organizing?

The answer: organizing allows you to focus more on your values. Organizing means less time searching for the other shoe, fewer arguments over who last used the scissors and did not put them back, less time cleaning around the clutter. With less time wasted, you have more time to be with family, exercise, eat healthy, and pursue those life goals that really matter. The next time you wonder why you would ever make time to organize, remember that organizing can be a means to an end. If you find a task that seems pointless, ask yourself how that task can bring you closer to what means the most to you. It is amazing how a change in attitude and knowing what is in it for you can motivate.

Ask for Help

Even if most of your chores and daily tasks are “value added”, they are not always fun and often too much for one person. Solution: spread the responsibility among the whole household. What is boring to one person may be fun for another. One person’s weak spot may be another person’s strength. Some people have time in the morning to help everyone get ready for the day, and others have more time at night to help everyone get ready for bed. When you do ask for help, just remember to be specific or be prepared for the help to be not exactly what you expected. Letting others pick what they want and find their own way, within reason, may even make them more willing and productive.

If organizing is overwhelming, a professional organizer can help.  See if Top Shelf Home Organizing can help you on your journey. Contact Jayme to schedule a consult or chat about organizing.

How a Professional Organizer Can Help You and Your Personal Relationships

How Professional Organizing Helps Personal RelationshipsWhen is the last time you snapped at your husband or were short fused with the kids because the house was a mess? Are you hanging on to old bad relationships and old stagnant items?

There is a link between organization and personal relationships. Overall, organizing improves how you feel. This can have a positive effect on your personal relationships.

How Does Organizing Help Relationships?

Being disorganized distracts you from your priorities. Whereas, removing clutter frees space for fresh ideas and fresh relationships. It helps you move onto the next step in your life. Clearing the clutter also helps you to rid the people and things that bring bad memories and bad feelings. Plus, getting organized isn’t about the stuff. It is about what the stuff does to you and your personal relationships. Being organized will help you stay focused, achieve your goals and seek clarity. In addition, it will improve the relationships that matter most to you.

Having an outsider help you get organized will provide an objective opinion. Then, you won’t strain or stress over the organizing process.

How Professional Organizers Can Help

Professional organizers can help those of us too busy, too confused, too tired, or too stressed to deal with clutter ourselves. In fact, getting help from an organizer is no different than getting help with any other thing you may not be able to do, or have time to do on your own. Organizing requires professional help just like taxes, real estate, legal matters, investments, and retirement accounts. More importantly, organizers have effective systems and processes. Which make them more efficient, improve time management, and improve daily routines. Organizers can also provide professional resources such as; closet companies, movers, art appraisers, garage companies, and painters. They also have resources such as; auction houses, organizing products and stores, junk companies, shredding companies, consignment stores, photo and paper scanning companies and contractors.

If you need help reducing your clutter to improve your personal relationships, see how Top Shelf Home Organizing can help you on your journey. Contact Jayme to schedule a consult or chat about organizing.

How to Start Your Organizing Journey

Getting organized and being organized is a dream that can come true! However, an organizing journey will be most successful if you have a plan. Write down your organizing goals. Dream big and don’t hold back. Share these goals and dreams with someone to help empower you to get started. Use these tips to help with your plan and to launch you forward on your organizing journey.Starting Your Organizing Journey

Deciding Which Area of Your Home to Organize First
Deciding where to start is challenging when you have many areas of your home that need to be organized. Having a plan as to which areas you will work through first and last will help you stay focused.

Here are Some Ideas on Where to Start:

  • Top Down or Bottom Up
    Starting with the top of your home (or bottom) is a logical way to work through your home, organizing area by area.  Start in your attic.  Then work through bedrooms, bedroom closets, linen closets and bathrooms.  Next work through your living room, dining room, kitchen, playroom and home office. Then the final areas would be your basement, garage, storage unit and yard.
  • Inside Out
    Starting with the inside of you home is another strategy. With this process, you work through all your closets and your pantry first. The next areas are the attic, basement and garage. The last areas would be bedrooms, kitchen, home office, and then living rooms and dining room.
  • Areas You See Everyday
    Organizing the areas of your home you see first everyday will have immediate impact and encourage you to meet your goals for other areas of your home. Areas you see everyday include your bedroom, your bathroom, your closet, kitchen and office. Choose the area with the largest impact and work through that area to completion. Enjoy the results before moving to the next.
  • Areas You Do Not See Everyday
    Organizing areas that you do not see everyday can be beneficial.  If the organizing process will bother other family members or take an extended amount of time due to your schedule or the size and condition of the space, you may want to start with areas you do not see everyday. Working in a basement, storage area or attic where you can close a door during the process will help reduce stress for you and your family if the thought of organizing and removing unneeded items brings anxiety.

Once you have a plan of how you will work through your house, set organizing goals for each area of your home and write them down.

Where to Start with Organizing Items
You can also divide your organizing project into item categories of what you will organize first, this will bring structure to your journey. Also, write down all the items you want organized in your home to provide guidance and keep you on track.

Here are Some Ideas on How to Organize by Categorizing Your Items:

  • Start Easy
    Start with items that are easy to organize.  These items will have obvious categories and obvious places to be stored.  Items easier to organize include clothing, linens, pantry items and toys.  Once the easy items are managed, move on to more difficult categories such as paperwork, kitchen items, garage items and many items typically stored in the basement. More difficult items would be saved for last, when the rest your home is organized.  These items include photos, old paperwork, mementos and items that have been in storage for a long time.
  • Items You Use Everyday
    If you organize the items you use every day first, it will motivate you to continue to organize the rest of your home. Starting here will give you immediate gratification as you see and use these items everyday. This items include your clothing, your toiletries and your kitchen items. This area may also include items on your desk and paperwork.
  • Items You Do Not Use
    Organize items you do not use frequently first, this way you can free up space and energy for the items that you use frequently. Going through the items that you do not use frequently and purging the unnecessary is a good place to start if getting organized will bother other family members.  They will notice a tidy space before questioning what you did with the items.  These items may include tools, mementos, items from past hobbies and projects, and seasonal items.

Save the Difficult Items and Areas for Last
Start with an easy area or item.  This will build motivation to continue organizing your home.  Difficult items and areas include photos, mementos, basements, attics and storage units.  Your family is likely to help in these areas after they see the results and enjoy the benefit of all the other organized areas of your home.

Getting organizing is a journey. Start with small projects and enjoy the results. A professional organizer can help you along the way.  See if Top Shelf Home Organizing can help you on your journey. Contact Jayme to schedule a consult or chat about organizing.

3 Meal Planning Tips: Saving You Time and Money!

I am sure you have heard meal planning can help you eat healthy and stick to a budget. This is true, no matter your culture, eating habits or household size, having a plan will prevent you from last minute drive-thru lunches and take and bake pizza dinners.  Although we all love a simple pizza dinner every once in a while.

Here are a couple ideas to help you to get into the habit of planning your meals.

Planning Meal Ideas

Jot down meal ideas to last two weeks and keep a running list with you at all times. This can be a simple notepad or a meal plan app such as Mealime, Yummly or Foodprint.

For your meal planning, double recipes for freezer meals and leftovers, and leave room for dining out. Make sure not to over plan. Over planning can lead to food waste and possibly leave you feeling burnt out from too much time in the kitchen. Keep your meals simple, especially if you do not enjoy cooking or have a busy schedule. Consider a no cook or raw meal every once in a while. In our house, we do a meal of cubed cheese, cold meat, raw veggies, fresh fruit and whole grain crackers every couple weeks. The kids love it and it works well on a busy weeknight.

You can also try meal delivery services such as Blue Apron, Sun Basket, etc. it works well as a supplement to  your planning. However, be sure the meals arrive on a good day for you to actually cook the food. The food will arrive fresh and need to be prepared within a day or two. In addition, check the portion options are sufficient for your family and will produce leftovers.

Planning a Meal Budget

Identify your food budget. Be sure to include a reasonable budget for dining out. Stick to your budget by eating seasonal produce, stocking up on meat when it is on sale or purchasing protein from a local meat supplier. In your meal plan, include a couple inexpensive, non-meat meals.

Eating healthier does not have to require spending more money.  A local holistic health coach can guide you to planning healthier meals without breaking the budget. Better Health by Heather has helped our family eat healthier (our kids now get a serving of veggies in their breakfast smoothies without even knowing it!).

Planning for Shopping & Preparing

Plan a day to do your grocery shopping. Take your list to your local grocery store and try your best to stick to the list. You may also consider grocery delivery. Stores may add on a minimal fee for deliver, but the cost typically is made up in the time you would spend driving and shopping.

Identify a day for food preparation. This does not need to be an entire day; just a day that you can prepare fresh produce for weekday lunches and after work and school snacking. Although, doing both shopping and food preparation in the same day may leave you feeling frustrated and burned out. Try to keep these days separated.

Have fun planning your meals and enjoy watching your family eat better. There is no perfect plan. Don’t get frustrated by wasted food or too much time in the kitchen. Learn from your mistakes and tweak your plan to best fit your household.

Ideas to Simplify Fall Nesting

Ideas to Simplify Fall NestingFall brings a feeling of nesting for us all. The season change, a cold winter ahead, has us planning and preparing. Here are some ideas to help you simplify your fall nesting.

Home
Preparing your home for fall and winter can be an undertaking. Break this project down. First start by putting away summer decorations and activities. This will free up space for you to think about your fall, winter and holiday decorating. It also gives you space for cleaning. Consider items that did not bring enjoyment to you over the summer. Then, drop these items off for donation if you feel they will serve another home better.

Kitchen
Pulling out summer entertaining and outdoor dishes will free up space in your cabinets and countertops. First, clear the pantry of the summer convenience foods. Second, before your next trip to the grocery store (or delivery), empty the refrigerator. Toss items that are expired. Wipe down all shelves and walls of the refrigerator. Lastly, inventory what you have and plan some meals around those items. Jot down some favorite fall meals to make your meal planning a bit easier.

Wardrobe
September might not be the month to do a complete wardrobe changeover, but take some time to pull out the summer clothes that you did not wear, did not like or no longer make you feel great. Box them up and drop them off at a local shelter or consignment shop (to recoup a little of your investment).

Yard
Start to plan what plants will need extra attention before the winter. Arrange for fall clean up if you plan to outsource this. Then recycle and donate toys and furniture you don’t want to see in your yard next summer.

Schedule
Getting into a new schedule can be challenging, especially when you are managing multiple schedules. Don’t expect perfection. A homemade dinner may not be reasonable on an evening full of meetings or activities. Allow for the unexpected and focus on the priorities. Then the rest will fall into place in the coming weeks.

Enjoy the cooler weather. Remember to take your organizing journey one step at a time. In addition, focus on what matters and what will have the biggest impact for you.

4 Fun Bathroom Organizing Tips

Bathroom Organizing TipsOrganizing your bathroom can be fun and rewarding.  Make your bathroom a relaxing place to be by following these basic bathroom organizing tips.

1. Cleaning 

Empty all cabinets and drawers and wipe the surfaces.  Hair, dust and residue tend to collect in these areas.  Use an essential oil such as tea tree, lemon or orange to disinfect and add a fresh scent.

2. Make Up

When organizing and inventorying your make up combine all make up into one area.  Remember to check your desk, purse, suitcase and vanity so all your makeup is inventoried.  Dispose any make up that is old and expired.  Donate new make up that you know you will not use to a local women’s shelter.  Remove any colors that do not suit you anymore.  For more great tips on organizing your make up, read more from LeAnn Conway Refresh Your Makeup Bag

3. Towels

To organize your towels follow these simple steps: Gather all bath towels, hand towels, wash clothes, etc. from around your home.  Determine a reasonable number of towels per person in your home plus guests.  Two bath towels, hand towels and wash clothes per person may be reasonable. Donate extra to a local animal shelter or human society. Fold the towels in a consistent way.  There is no magic method to this, just fold them how they will best fit your cabinet or closet.

4. Organize

Now it is time to put all items back into the cabinets.  You may want to consider purchasing some organizing supplies now that you know what you have and how you want to store it. Organizing supplies such as drawer dividers, containers, multi-level shelves, hanging shelves, or lazy Susan maybe helpful. Local hardware stores, Bed Bath & Beyond or the Container Store offer great solutions.  When organizing remember to only keep what you love and need, keep like items together and find a space that fits your stuff.

If organizing your bathroom seem overwhelming, a professional organizer can help.  See if Top Shelf Home Organizing can help you on your journey.  Contact Jayme to schedule a consult or chat about organizing.

Improve Your Self Care with these 4 Tips

Are you spending too much money? Working too many hours? Doing too many things at one time and not paying attention to what (who) matters most?  This month is the time to refocus on you, who you are and what you are grateful for.  Here are a couple ideas on self care to get you refocused.

1. Reset
Rest is not negotiable when it comes to your well-being.  When is the last time you felt well rested for a solid week or even a couple days?  Not being well rested makes your body out of sync.  Your appetite soars and you become short fused.  These feelings are not good for you and the people you love.  Build your schedule and routine around a day of rest.  Set aside a full day to do nothing, disconnect and just be. It will make the rest of your week more productive and your relationships stronger.

2. Disconnect
Learning how to be alone and disconnect helps us connect with others.  Constantly checking emails, social media feeds and other messages gives us the feeling of being connected when in reality we are alone.  Being glued to the phone while the kids are playing at the park disconnects you from watching, growing and learning from your kids.  Times of awkwardness at a social gathering or avoiding small talk with someone new causing you to pull out your phone so you appear to be busy is a distraction that leaves you in a state of loneliness.  Learning how to be without connection to the world for a day, a couple hours, or just while waiting in a line somewhere will help you rejuvenate, focus on what relationships matter and be the best you.

3. Simplify
Self-care is challenging when you are drowning in stuff, lists and schedules.  Self-care is taking care of your soul, not your stuff.  Simplifying your schedule, saying no to opportunities, and reducing the stuff you own, frees your mind to focus on your well-being.  Respecting your time is doing something right, not necessarily 10 things efficiently, but half-heartedly.  Recognizing a habit, idea or a place that is no working for you is a start to self-care.  Clear off your desk or declutter your bedroom and recognize how it makes you feel.  Say ‘No’ to an opportunity and recognize when a relationship is not fitting to you. Take a mental note of how it frees your mind.  Forget about keeping up and make a point to have, do and schedule what is best for you.

4. Take Care of You
Caring for your body is the most important factor in self-care. Caring for your well-being pulls all of the self-care ideas together.  You are in complete control of what you do to your body from food to exercise.   Choose exercise that is fitting for you; something that you can maintain, is sustainable and is easy for you to do.  Improve your diet by making simple changes.  Add some vegetables to your morning smoothie, think about whether you need that second cup of coffee, drink water and talk back to cravings.

5 Ideas for Long-Term Efficiency Organizing Paperwork

Organizing Paperwork for long-term efficiencyUnmanaged paperwork around your home and office can be quite stressful. Searching for important documents may seem hopeless. Interest charges and late fees can pile up quickly on misplaced bills. Deadlines are easily overlooked. Getting on top of your papers and developing a good paper management system will reduce your stress.

Choose a Convenient Location
Where you manage your paperwork should be convenient. Going to a secluded area of your home may not encourage you to manage your paperwork. If it is not an area you enjoy being in, you won’t go there.

The workspace should have ample surface area, basic office supplies (envelopes, pens, address label), computer and printer, paper recycle bin and paper shredder.

Remove the Unnecessary, Immediately
Sort your mail as soon as it comes in with a recycle bin and shredder within in arm’s reach. Junk mail should be recycled immediately. Refer to the document retention guideline for guidance on what documents to keep and for how long.

Do Initial Sorting
Create a temporary, simple filing system for the initial sorting of your paperwork. This file system could include files labeled:

File – for files to be filed
Pay – for bills to be paid
To Do – for items that require attention within the next month
Read – for documents that will required your dedicated attention

Regularly go through and Pay, Sort and File
Set up a weekly time to go through the temporary files.  Coordinate your bill paying with your pay dates. File papers from the ‘file’ file. Review your ‘to do’ file for items needing attention within the next week. Take some time read through the files from your ‘read’ file.

Choose Physical or Electronic Files
Decide if you prefer physical or electronic files. It’s nearly impossible to completely do one or the other, but designating one or the other as your filing system will help to manage your paperwork.

It is important to always be aware of what papers, documents and receipts enter your home. Receipts can be sent via email or not retained at all. Be selective of what documents are collected at trade shows, conventions and seminars. Only accept the documents that are relevant to you. Be mindful of the mailing lists, marketing emails and promotional lists you sign up for.

Once your paperwork system is set up, plan to set aside time every week to maintain and manage your paperwork. Staying on top of your system will reduce stress and ensure you keep on top of your work and bills.

If setting up a paperwork management system is overwhelming for you, a professional organizer can help.  Contact Jayme with Top Shelf Home Organizing for a consultation to see how we can help.

The Ultimate Checklist on How Long to Keep Documents

How Long to Keep DocumentsAre your filing drawers overflowing? Do you have several stacks of paper documents with no idea as to which you need and which belong in the trash? Are you overly concerned that the IRS will come knocking at your door and you won’t have something you need? Your stress is over. This checklist on how long to keep all your financial and other important documents will help guide you!

Documents to Keep Forever

  • Income tax returns
  • CPA audit reports
  • Deeds, mortgages and bills of sale
  • Legal documents (wills, living wills, power of attorney designation, medical and burial instructions, beneficiary documents)
  • Vital records (birth, death, marriage, divorce, adoption)
  • Investment trade confirmations and statements that indicate buying and selling, retirement and pension records, year-end statement for investments
  • Trust documents
  • Receipts for warranties
  • Automobile titles
  • Current insurance policies
  • Medical records
  • Education records
  • Important correspondence
  • Property records (keep until sale of property)
  • Car records (keep until sale of car)
  • Insurance policies (keep for life of policy)

Documents to Keep for 7 Years

The IRS may go back 7 years to audit your tax returns for errors or incorrectly claimed deductions – so it’s important that you keep all tax-related documents for that length of time.

  • Bank records
  • W-2 and 1099 forms
  • Receipts for tax purposes
  • Personnel and payroll records
  • Cancelled checks
  • Disability records
  • Unemployment benefit records
  • Settled accident claims
  • Mortgages, deeds, leases on sold property
  • Records on sold stocks and bonds

Documents to Keep for 1 Year

It’s rare that anyone is going to want to see an electric bill or credit card statement dating back more than a year. But you may choose to keep the following NON-TAX-RELATED papers:

  • Checkbook ledgers
  • Paycheck stubs (keep until reconciled with W-2)
  • Monthly financial statements
  • Monthly mortgage statements
  • Credit card statements
  • Utility records
  • Medical bills (in case of insurance disputes)

Documents to Keep Less Than 1 Year

There are always those papers that don’t fit into any of these categories.  Retain these records according to the following guidelines:

  • Credit card receipts (keep until reconciled on your credit card statement)
  • ATM and deposit slips (keep until reconciled on your bank statement)
  • Bills (keep until the payment verified on the next bill)


Now, it’s time to simplify!

Now that you know the guidelines on how long to keep all of your documents, it’s time to get organized. Start cleaning out those file cabinets or sorting through those paper stacks that are taking up space and causing you stress.

*NOTE: This checklist is a guideline. Please be sure to consult your accountant and/or the IRS for the most up-to-date rules.

If you don’t have the time to get your business and personal documents organized, Top Shelf Home Organizing would love to help. Call Jayme: 262-373-9416.